In the News...The New York Times Explains: Why You Should Stop Being So Hard on Yourself
Author: Kari Kagan, Psy.D.
Being hard on ourselves is a universal experience that has more harmful effects than we think. Yet, so many people believe that the harder they are on themselves, the more motivated they will be. While there might be some validity to that some of the time, this article explains the harmful effects of chronic and severe self-criticism, the kind that elicits a deep sense of shame and failure. This article also reviews the antidote to self-criticism: self-compassion. While this might be a familiar term, it is likely a foreign practice. Before dismissing it as "going too easy on yourself", I encourage you to read more about it in the link below and consider making a commitment to practice self-compassion for one day (or even one hour!).
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I understand that there are moments wherein we need to be hard on ourselves. We want to be our own critique so we would know the things we should work on ourselves. But you should put a limit and boundaries when it comes to being hard towards yourself. There is always a room for improvement, but please don't think that you are not making any progress. Of course, you are. What's important after all is the fact that you are learning from time to time.
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Diana Gordon, Psy.D., Kari Kagan Psy.D., and Katie Leoni, Psy.D.
Drs. Gordon, Kagan, and Leoni practice psychotherapy primarily via telehealth. Their areas of expertise include anxiety, sleep, stress, depression, maternal mental health, and addiction. They blog about these topics to provide research-based information about common problems and strategies to help manage them.